So, as to change subject rather drastically, I say, here's to old boyfriends.
Let me see if I can explain what I mean without all of you thinking that I am a crazy, non committed married woman.
I was checking my email today and found a friend request from my Facebook account. "Hum," thought I. "Who could know me now?" and to my total and utter amazement, my old boyfriend. **Sigh**
In seconds, thousands of memories flooded my mind. Starting first with where I met the lad. I was 15 and he was 19. Always had a thing for older men, still do, as my husband is 7 years older than me, (um, um, um ... yummy)
At 15 I was very involved in the theater. I had a job cleaning my community theater and the owner of that particular theater asked me and my sister if we wanted to go to a different theater and be back stage to help build the set for a production they were doing. We were also asked to help with the different costume changes throughout the run of the production. It was a 15 year olds dream, well, at least mine. Older men, theater.. a place of magic... how can you go wrong with that, ehh?
It was getting closer to the start of the show when I was introduced to him. He didn't start working there until it got close to the show opening. He was beautiful and I immediately fell extremely, madly head over hills for this guy. Like heart throbing, musceles aching, glands watering bliss every time he walked in the room, type of love. My sister kind of liked him too, but I secretly hoped that he wouldn't like her even though I was only 15, and she was closer to his age.
I remember him giving me his phone number. We were backstage talking, and there just happened to be a phone back there and he mock dialed his home phone number. I had it memorized in milliseconds. In fact, I think I still know what it is that is how much I loved that guy.I can smell the theater, I can feel my body, my thoughts, the passion that filled me. It is amazing how all of this happened over 15 years ago and I can accesses all of these feelings.
So, of course, like any good exgirlfriend, I clicked on accept for the friend request and looked at his pictures. He is married too, with four beautiful children, and a lovely wife, but...still, I look at his face and remember everything I felt for him. Really, I think that I might understand a little about people marrying their high school sweethearts.
My first love didn't last long. It was about 3 months that we were together (together, what does that really mean at 15?), I guess it was what you could call together... we were young and lived 30 mins away from each other. Long distance relationships are a lot harder when you don't have a car and even if you did you wouldn't be able to drive it anyway because, ya, you're 15.
Ya, I know he was 19, and poor too. He didn't have a car, and it was difficult to even talk to each other. The best thing we had going is that my sister started dating his friend and the two of them would come over, but of course like the big sister she was..she broke up with our ride, but those months together... I start think about that country song "Strawberry Wine" ... huh.... *sigh*
You know what is funny about all of this is his initials are BC. I knew from that point that the guy I would marry would have those initials. My husband are CBC. And, to boot, I think I married a better version of my first love. How's that for AWESOME!!!
Here's to the old and the new!!
Monday, August 25, 2008
Sunday, August 24, 2008
Follow up
So, today during church I flipped open my trusty copy of Mormon Doctrine and began to look up various subjects. I had a conversation over at FMH, or rather, the blog that is posted down below, about same sex marriage (ssm) and the churches involvement in the politics of this issue. In Las Vegas we had a similar proposition as compared to California's proposition 8. The church used the pulpit to encourage people to get involved and vote yes for the prop. I had no problem with the church using the pulpit to encourage the sanctity of the family, and I voted yes for the proposition that changed the constitution to now define marriage being between one man and one woman.
The conversation was heated over there at FMH, and I, like always, was a chink in the wheel. I didn't agree with the stance that many of the readers did and I voiced my concerns many times. Quimby and I got into a very heated discussion about why the church should or shouldn't be involved with a civil issue, and I have been pondering, since Friday, the many things that were brought up. One of the biggest questions that arose for me was, why indeed is the church getting involved in a civil issue?
So I did a little research. It is a really good question. Why does the church get involved in a civil matter? Why don't they leave something like this to the courts to decide? Why should anyone tell anyone why or why they shouldn't be married. Well, I think, for me, I found my answer to that question.
I started flipping through the Mormon Doctrine and decided to look up issues that were talked about over at FMH. I looked up exaltation. I looked up sex immorality, and I looked up Celestial glory. And now I think I have a better understanding as to why the Church is so involved with ssm, and why they want marriage to be defined as one man and one woman.
First, I will tell you what I found under sex immorality.
It states this under exaltation:
The only way that you can receive the highest degree of celestial glory is to enter into the new and everlasting covenant. The church, stating clearly that homosexuality is a sin, will never allow two men or two women to enter into this covenant, and so, they will not receive the highest degree of Celestial glory. So, still, why shouldn't they be able to be married, and why should the church be involved? Homosexuality is a sin. IT seems as though marriage in the new and everlasting covenant is the only means for us to receive the exaltation that we all desire.
From the time in Heaven we were taught obedience to the laws that even God has to obey. If you choose this good, or righteous thing then this good or righteous blessing will be placed upon you. If you choose to go contrary to the commandments then you will be held accountable. It has been clearly defined that homosexuality is a sin. Could it be the very reason that they church is involved is to protect marriage. Is it to continue to encourage it's members and new members to strive for something higher? Or is it to protect those who struggle with either the feelings of homosexuality, or practicing homosexual? Meaning, once homosexual marriage is legalized, then by all accounts from the churches standpoint it would no longer be a sin to be a practicing homosexual, and the church would have to see it that way, which then could bring up the issue of temple marriage. We aren't doing anything sinful, so legally marry us. To me, that is the very reason the church wants marriage to be defined as one man and one woman.
We, as members of the church are taught about Celestial life, so wouldn't this time, now here on earth be a good place for working on Celestial life? Celestial life is a life of creation, and so much more than our earthly minds can even comprehend.
In Sunday school we talked about the Stripling Warriors today. What a very righteous bunch of men. They followed the commandments to exactness. Meaning right on...no substituting or justifying. They lived the commandments to exactness. In talking about them there was a most beautiful quote that I thought very fitting for this subject. President Harold B Lee said:
The conversation was heated over there at FMH, and I, like always, was a chink in the wheel. I didn't agree with the stance that many of the readers did and I voiced my concerns many times. Quimby and I got into a very heated discussion about why the church should or shouldn't be involved with a civil issue, and I have been pondering, since Friday, the many things that were brought up. One of the biggest questions that arose for me was, why indeed is the church getting involved in a civil issue?
So I did a little research. It is a really good question. Why does the church get involved in a civil matter? Why don't they leave something like this to the courts to decide? Why should anyone tell anyone why or why they shouldn't be married. Well, I think, for me, I found my answer to that question.
I started flipping through the Mormon Doctrine and decided to look up issues that were talked about over at FMH. I looked up exaltation. I looked up sex immorality, and I looked up Celestial glory. And now I think I have a better understanding as to why the Church is so involved with ssm, and why they want marriage to be defined as one man and one woman.
First, I will tell you what I found under sex immorality.
Every degree and type of lewdness, lasciviousness, and licentiousness; of concupiscence, prostitution, and whoredoms; of sodomy, onanism, and homosexuality; of masturbation, incontinence, and perversion; of rape, seduction, and infidelity; of adultery, fornication, and uncleanness-all these things, as well as many others, are condemned by divine edict and are among Lucifer's chief means of leading souls to hell.So first we have sexual sin clearly defined. In this definition, it states clearly that homosexuality is a sin. In fact any type of sexual intercourse before marriage is sinful. So, you might ask why not let the practicing homosexuals marry and be happy in that marriage with a partner that they love? Good question.
It states this under exaltation:
Celestial marriage is the gate to exaltation, and exaltation consists in the continuation of the family unit in eternity. Exaltation is eternal life, the kind of life which God lives. Those who obtain it gain an inheritance in the highest of three heavens within the celestial kingdom.
They have eternal increase, a continuation of the seeds forever and ever, a continuation of the lives eternal lives; that is, they have spirit children in the resurrection, in relation to which offspring they stand in the same position that God our Father stands to us. They inherit, in due course the fullness of the glory of the Father, meaning that they have all power in heaven and on earth.
The only way that you can receive the highest degree of celestial glory is to enter into the new and everlasting covenant. The church, stating clearly that homosexuality is a sin, will never allow two men or two women to enter into this covenant, and so, they will not receive the highest degree of Celestial glory. So, still, why shouldn't they be able to be married, and why should the church be involved? Homosexuality is a sin. IT seems as though marriage in the new and everlasting covenant is the only means for us to receive the exaltation that we all desire.
From the time in Heaven we were taught obedience to the laws that even God has to obey. If you choose this good, or righteous thing then this good or righteous blessing will be placed upon you. If you choose to go contrary to the commandments then you will be held accountable. It has been clearly defined that homosexuality is a sin. Could it be the very reason that they church is involved is to protect marriage. Is it to continue to encourage it's members and new members to strive for something higher? Or is it to protect those who struggle with either the feelings of homosexuality, or practicing homosexual? Meaning, once homosexual marriage is legalized, then by all accounts from the churches standpoint it would no longer be a sin to be a practicing homosexual, and the church would have to see it that way, which then could bring up the issue of temple marriage. We aren't doing anything sinful, so legally marry us. To me, that is the very reason the church wants marriage to be defined as one man and one woman.
We, as members of the church are taught about Celestial life, so wouldn't this time, now here on earth be a good place for working on Celestial life? Celestial life is a life of creation, and so much more than our earthly minds can even comprehend.
In Sunday school we talked about the Stripling Warriors today. What a very righteous bunch of men. They followed the commandments to exactness. Meaning right on...no substituting or justifying. They lived the commandments to exactness. In talking about them there was a most beautiful quote that I thought very fitting for this subject. President Harold B Lee said:
The power of Satan will increase; we see it in evidence on every hand. …
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“Now the only safety we have as members of this church is to do exactly what the Lord said to the Church in that day when the Church was organized. We must learn to give heed to the words and commandments that the Lord shall give through his prophet, ‘as he receiveth them, walking in all holiness before me; … as if from mine own mouth, in all patience and faith.’ (D&C 21:4–5.) There will be some things that take patience and faith. You may not like what comes from the authority of the Church. It may contradict your political views. It may contradict your social views. It may interfere with some of your social life. But if you listen to these things, as if from the mouth of the Lord himself, with patience and faith, the promise is that ‘the gates of hell shall not prevail against you; yea, and the Lord God will disperse the powers of darkness from before you, and cause the heavens to shake for your good, and his name’s glory.’ (D&C 21:6.)” (in Conference Report, Oct. 1970, 152; or Improvement Era, Dec. 1970, 126).
Thursday, August 21, 2008
Monday, August 18, 2008
Dinner Group
Dinner group has started. I love dinner group. Let me tell you a little about dinner group so either you can enjoy it yourself, or . . . not. I don't care, but let me tell you again, I love it.
I have two lady friends. We each take a day of the week and cook dinner for our family and the two other families. My day is Monday. Today I made Terryaki chicken and rice. I made everything here and at 5:30 my two friends came and picked up their families portion of the meal. Tomorrow I won't have to cook. Wednesday I won't have to cook, and if we have enough left overs I won't have to cook on Thursday and Friday either. Now, when we first started I was worried that I wouldn't like it because I love to cook, but after a very long summer full of cereal and macaroni and cheese for dinner I am ready to have real food again. ( I would like to add my hubby works out of town and really, that is the reason why I love to cook. I love to see his face, his compliment of the meal. With him not here I don't get that. Instead I get, eeeewwww, what is this. I don't want green beans... Yuck! I hate this food.)
I have a problem, though. The rules of the dinner group are: 1 main dish and 1 side dish. I am running out of sides. I need help with side dishes. Green beans and corn, and (of course) green jello will only go so far. If any of you have any suggestions about sides I would love to hear them.
Happy Cooking!
I have two lady friends. We each take a day of the week and cook dinner for our family and the two other families. My day is Monday. Today I made Terryaki chicken and rice. I made everything here and at 5:30 my two friends came and picked up their families portion of the meal. Tomorrow I won't have to cook. Wednesday I won't have to cook, and if we have enough left overs I won't have to cook on Thursday and Friday either. Now, when we first started I was worried that I wouldn't like it because I love to cook, but after a very long summer full of cereal and macaroni and cheese for dinner I am ready to have real food again. ( I would like to add my hubby works out of town and really, that is the reason why I love to cook. I love to see his face, his compliment of the meal. With him not here I don't get that. Instead I get, eeeewwww, what is this. I don't want green beans... Yuck! I hate this food.)
I have a problem, though. The rules of the dinner group are: 1 main dish and 1 side dish. I am running out of sides. I need help with side dishes. Green beans and corn, and (of course) green jello will only go so far. If any of you have any suggestions about sides I would love to hear them.
Happy Cooking!
Wednesday, August 13, 2008
School
School starts tomorrow. I say here's a round for everyone, for school starting. I love school. I love that my kids go to school. *Big Sigh* School is my friend.
This, coming from someone who really, really looked into home schooling. The 'thought' of home school is really intriguing. You as the parent get to teach your children the principles of life, the gospel (if you choose) and whatever else you want to teach them. You get to put in all the work. You get to mold your lovely little babies into something wonderful and beautiful, and incredible. However, I am now of the opinion, why fix something that isn't broken. My kids go to a new school. Brand spanking new and it is beautiful. Their principal is awesome, and so far the teachers have my approval.
I love our public school. I still am able to mold them because I choose to be involved in the PTA. Gosh, I didn't realize how much the PTA does for the school and for the children. The PTA helps raise the funds for any extra material, field trips, and other necessities the school and children might need. I love the PTA, but my point is I am involved with my children's education. I always wanted to be that type of mom. Some days are better than others, but we have fun doing it.
So, school. I love school. I love that my children, well, the two older ones will be at school all day long. ALL DAY LONG! The brothers won't be fighting, and my house, oh my lovely house, will stay cleaner than it has been all summer long. Did I mention that there won't be any fighting? Oh, I love school... I wish I could write a lament about school....
Here's to school.
This, coming from someone who really, really looked into home schooling. The 'thought' of home school is really intriguing. You as the parent get to teach your children the principles of life, the gospel (if you choose) and whatever else you want to teach them. You get to put in all the work. You get to mold your lovely little babies into something wonderful and beautiful, and incredible. However, I am now of the opinion, why fix something that isn't broken. My kids go to a new school. Brand spanking new and it is beautiful. Their principal is awesome, and so far the teachers have my approval.
I love our public school. I still am able to mold them because I choose to be involved in the PTA. Gosh, I didn't realize how much the PTA does for the school and for the children. The PTA helps raise the funds for any extra material, field trips, and other necessities the school and children might need. I love the PTA, but my point is I am involved with my children's education. I always wanted to be that type of mom. Some days are better than others, but we have fun doing it.
So, school. I love school. I love that my children, well, the two older ones will be at school all day long. ALL DAY LONG! The brothers won't be fighting, and my house, oh my lovely house, will stay cleaner than it has been all summer long. Did I mention that there won't be any fighting? Oh, I love school... I wish I could write a lament about school....
Here's to school.
Sunday, August 10, 2008
Sunday
Umm, I have to admit something... I mowed my lawn today.
Yes! I know, it is Sunday, and normally I don't have a problem keeping the Sabbath Day holy, but today, I mowed my lawn. Not only did I mow my lawn, but I worked a little bit out in the garden, we unpacked the trailer from camping, and to top of this sinful day, I skipped church to do it all.
I am going straight to hell!
Hey, at least I didn't go shopping, which is something that I really wanted to do too, but we came home from camping sooner than I expected.
Plus, I don't know if shopping is worse than working. I can never figure out the whole, what you should do on the Sabbath and what you shouldn't do, thing. How do you guys feel about it? Is one thing worse than the other? What do you say? Am I going straight to hell or what?
Yes! I know, it is Sunday, and normally I don't have a problem keeping the Sabbath Day holy, but today, I mowed my lawn. Not only did I mow my lawn, but I worked a little bit out in the garden, we unpacked the trailer from camping, and to top of this sinful day, I skipped church to do it all.
I am going straight to hell!
Hey, at least I didn't go shopping, which is something that I really wanted to do too, but we came home from camping sooner than I expected.
Plus, I don't know if shopping is worse than working. I can never figure out the whole, what you should do on the Sabbath and what you shouldn't do, thing. How do you guys feel about it? Is one thing worse than the other? What do you say? Am I going straight to hell or what?
Saturday, August 9, 2008
Vacation
Vacation... got to love it right? Well, mostly I do. I was going to write a blog about how I hate to travel in a small truck with 3 kids that can touch each other, make faces, and hit, but I decided that instead of doing that I would write about my vacation. We are on our way back from camping. It actually was more of a family reunion thing than a vacation, but it was still fun.
We took our trailer camping and then went to the Beach on Friday. I love the water. We rented some wave runners and I spent most my time on the water. My husband told me to remember while I was out there (ie next to my brother) that I should remember that I am a mother of three kids and a wife of a wonderful husband. I had to do a double take. Really? Me? I need to be careful? I was stunned. I am not, in my own terms, crazy, while driving either an ATV or a waver runner. I like to stay alive. I like to be in control of myself and anything I am driving. Control, control control, that's my motto. I don't like going down steep hills, riding rides at Lagoon, or doing anything that is crazy enough that I might just get hurt....( i know, by just driving a car I place myself at risk), but my point is I don't like going crazy on vehicles, so when he told me that I needed to remember that I was a mother of three my jaw dropped. If anyone was crazy with their driving it would not be me. It would be my, oh so less, concerned husband.
However, I got out on that water, felt the speed at my finger tips and I went insane. I mean really, truly insane. I did brodies, I splashed water up on my sister who was on another machine (which you aren't suppose to do because you need to stay 150 feet away from any other water craft), I splashed myself with water, (totally on accident) I went over huge waves and almost knocked myself off a couple of times... my point, he was right. I was crazy. It was exhilarating. This morning I woke up and my legs hurt. Not just a, oh wow that kind of hurts, but a squat down and almost dropped to the floor because you legs hurt so much, kind of hurt. Crazy, that riding a wave runner can cause one so much pain. It was fun. I would recommend it to anyone, and I realized that going a little crazy is needed every now and then.
We took our trailer camping and then went to the Beach on Friday. I love the water. We rented some wave runners and I spent most my time on the water. My husband told me to remember while I was out there (ie next to my brother) that I should remember that I am a mother of three kids and a wife of a wonderful husband. I had to do a double take. Really? Me? I need to be careful? I was stunned. I am not, in my own terms, crazy, while driving either an ATV or a waver runner. I like to stay alive. I like to be in control of myself and anything I am driving. Control, control control, that's my motto. I don't like going down steep hills, riding rides at Lagoon, or doing anything that is crazy enough that I might just get hurt....( i know, by just driving a car I place myself at risk), but my point is I don't like going crazy on vehicles, so when he told me that I needed to remember that I was a mother of three my jaw dropped. If anyone was crazy with their driving it would not be me. It would be my, oh so less, concerned husband.
However, I got out on that water, felt the speed at my finger tips and I went insane. I mean really, truly insane. I did brodies, I splashed water up on my sister who was on another machine (which you aren't suppose to do because you need to stay 150 feet away from any other water craft), I splashed myself with water, (totally on accident) I went over huge waves and almost knocked myself off a couple of times... my point, he was right. I was crazy. It was exhilarating. This morning I woke up and my legs hurt. Not just a, oh wow that kind of hurts, but a squat down and almost dropped to the floor because you legs hurt so much, kind of hurt. Crazy, that riding a wave runner can cause one so much pain. It was fun. I would recommend it to anyone, and I realized that going a little crazy is needed every now and then.
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